I’ve always been a good student. And I must confess, there are many times during the year I become quite melancholy and wish I could go back to school. So, I was delighted to find when reading this book, the authoritative voice of the narration made me feel like I was back in school. And I was learning things I had never learned in any classroom I’ve ever been in!
When it comes to BDSM and kink, I’ve had to take my curiosity and drive to explore, along with my switchy personality, and try new things, learning largely in the school of life. But I supplement these lived lessons with an array of sexuality books. I’m especially smitten when I find a great BDSM book that offers sound advice, nurturing wisdom, and good philosophy. And I can say “The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl’s Guide to Female Dominance” by Mistress Lorelei Powers offers all of those!
Though I identify as a switch, most of my experience has been fulfilling the submissive role. I still have a lot to learn about being a Dominant and getting to know that side of myself. This book was perfect for helping me do just that.
Reading this book was a joy—Mistress Lorelei Powers has such a wonderfully authoritative and insightful voice with just enough snark, charm, and wit. I truly felt as though I were her pupil completing some very important homework as I studied this text. Her narration is the perfect kick where it counts that got me revved up and ready to step into a Dominant role.
This book is the perfect length and quite reader friendly. There is a lot of information packed into this manual, but it is enjoyable to peruse a second or third time and great to keep as a reference. The table outlining the difference between the Domestic Discipline lifestyle and the Leather lifestyle, along with the glossary of female Dominance terms are just two examples of items I like having for reference.
The book is segmented into three parts:
The first part of the book addresses many concepts and issues in female dominance. What if you are reluctant to take the dominant role? How does a couple maintain a balance between fantasy and reality in their relationship? What is the core of domestic discipline fantasies and how does it compare to the leather community? These questions and more are addressed.
The second part of the book discusses taking action: establishing your Authority, planning and enacting sessions, techniques and of course tools of the trade.
The third part of the book is an overview of the five archetypal fantasies in female dominance: The Nursemaid, the Governess, the Queen, the Amazon, and the Goddess. Ideas are given for props, costumes and effective methods of punishment and exerting control.
A healthy section is given to different kinds of impact play (mostly spanking) and goes over safety and other considerations for play. Those who are curious about domestic discipline or spanking scenes will likely get a lot from this.
Overall this book is a fantastic introduction written in a way that is quite reader friendly and inspiring to a hopeful practitioner of female Dominance. The publisher, Greenery Press, has a plethora of other titles in the realm of kink and sexuality.
Perhaps it’s time I turn in my school girl uniform and fill my back pack with titles like “The Mistress Manual” and perhaps a hairbrush, paddle, and strop to take kink tutelage, and a willing submissive, into my own hands!